Increasing Your Self-Reliance

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There is no doubt that having a family or group of friends around you is a wonderful thing and something that you can really get strength from. But as things happen in our lives, people move on or move away; we need to look at more and more ways to become self-reliant. Knowing that you are good enough and have all that you need to help you to be complete without someone else is going to help in so many aspects of your life, from career, social situations, and your gospel study, or as stated by, it is all about doing things and making decisions by yourself. It is impossible to be 100% self-reliant, but being able to lean on yourself, rather than others, helps you and the people around you.

But on a practical level, what are some of the things that need to be done to help someone to become more self-reliant? Here are some tips that can help you to increase your self-reliance, and to make your life more enriched.

Take Responsibility

When you are looking to be more self-reliant you need to think about your actions and choice and take responsibility for those. Whether that is certain choices that you make or actions you take, you need to own those choices and be prepared to learn from them if they end up being mistakes. Your finances, for example, can be something to take responsibility for. Resisting the urge to overspend and keeping within your means is a step to being self-reliant as you’re not relying on others to help you financially. Take control and look for some of the changes that you can make in your life, for instance, reducing your spend to decrease debt but looking at sites like But as well as finances, be the person that fixes your own issues or problems, rather than turning to others to do it for you. Advice and guidance is good, but you need to be the one that makes the changes.

Learn Practical Skills

Who knows where the world is going to take us over the next couple of years or even decade. From political situations to natural disasters and climate change, we never know when we may have to stay home and not have access to stores, or even have to leave our homes, like those suffering with the devastating fires at the moment. So having some more practical skills can help you during those times and get you on the road to self-reliance. Would you know how to make bread from scratch if you had no access to stores? What about repairing a leak or care tire repair? Small things can make a big difference, and can also mean you can help others too.

Take Care of Your Body

There is no need trying to go it alone health-wise, because when you need a doctor, you need a doctor. But there are things that you can do to make sure that you are healthy and well and have less reliance on medicines and so on. Exercise, eat healthy foods, take your vitamins, and look for ways to reduce stress.


Plan Your Wedding in Comfort

If you’re planning a wedding, the winter months are perfect for getting down to the nitty-gritty. The days are shorter and it’s colder outside so what better than to curl up on the sofa, laptop or tablet in hand, and get prepping for your special day. Let’s go through some of the details you can get ticked off your list, so that come springtime you can be sat outside with friends and families telling them all about your special day.

For starters, the date and venue should go hand in hand. Understanding what you want from a venue might dictate to you the date rather than the other way around. For example, if you’re looking for more of a natural wedding setting then the weather is going to play a significant role in your decision. If you’re cold or having to dodge the rain, then you might not capture your ideal shot. To directly contradict that, maybe you want the white snow or frosted treetops. So getting the time of year right is essential.

Sticking with a natural wedding venue, you’re going to want to see some examples of other couples and their experience of getting hitched outside. Take one of the most picturesque locations on the planet, the mountains. No two mountain ranges are the same and getting the right backdrop to your perfect day is solely down to personal taste; do you like a luscious green scenery? Or would you rather a snowy peak? Explore your options when it comes to getting married outside, don’t just get stuck in the traditional landmarks like the Rockies, get exploring and discover more to give yourself a better chance of finding the perfect location.

Moving away from the outside, what about the city lover? You like the high rises, the architecture and feel at home in the hustle of somewhere like Toronto or New York. Your options are going to be a lot more varied as you ask yourself questions like what does a cityscape mean to you. You could use your wedding as an opportunity to travel to London and get married in a royal location or maybe the infamous landmarks like the Empire State Building or the CN Tower. It’s your wedding and the world is your oyster, especially when it comes to celebrating you and your partner.

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Now you have the location and hopefully the date sorted, you’re going to be looking at the other parts of the day that will make sure it looks and feels just how you want to it to. Remember, nothing is too big or too small for your wedding.

A personal touch on your wedding day will go a long way. Quite often it will be the thing your guests take away and remind you of for years to come. We’ve all seen a ceremony and had a wedding cake, but not everyone has seen your wedding ceremony or had your wedding cake, so make it unique. Expressing yourself in your vows doesn’t have to just bring a tear to the eye but can make you laugh and show all of your attendees just what is special between you and Mr or Mrs right.

The cake, it’s mentioned above but it can’t be mentioned enough. While you’re sitting in your winter woollies, take the time to research cake shops that will deliver to your venue and check to see if they do free tastings. And don’t be afraid of expressing yourself through your cake, everyone will be taking a picture of you and your partner cutting the cake so don’t feel like you have to go traditional. If you have a shared love like travel or an inside joke about food, then trust your bakery to demonstrate your passion.

Freebies aren’t something to be ashamed of finding. Weddings are expensive things so the more free stuff you can get, the better. A cursory glance around the web will help you cut costs on vital things that you don’t want to spend big on so that you have more cash to throw at the things that you want to spend money on.

One example of how the modern world is helping to save you money on your wedding is the rise of music streaming apps. Check with your venue if they have a good enough sound system or at least the facilities to house one and get planning your music between the two of you. You can be the bride, groom and the DJ. Most importantly, that means the music you and your guests are dancing to are what you want to hear and not a DJ’s favourite track. It will be time-consuming to compile a playlist but you’ll both be able to contribute and dancing around the kitchen listening to your tracks will give you a taste of what your special day will be like, months away from the action.

You’ve ticked off a lot of details now for yourselves, but you have guests coming and want to make sure that they leave your wedding full of positivity and happy memories. With the money you have saved elsewhere, you could put together a welcome bag. Maybe an old-fashioned disposable camera so that you can all look back on a candid view of your big day. Think about the favours and the different age ranges at your wedding breakfast, keeping the younger guests occupied with a little table fun could just give their parents the room to cut loose in a way they haven’t in years.

Ultimately the plan now is not to let the shorter days and colder months get you down. You’re getting married soon and it’s time to get excited, plan your day and be ready to love, celebrate and show the world just what those special I Do works mean to you.

Own Your Statement Necklace with These Fashionable Tips


Statement necklaces have been a big trend for quite a while already now. And there are no signs that this trend is going to run out of steam anytime soon. In fact, it only looks to be getting more and more popular amongst women.

A really good statement necklace can help to liven up any outfit as long as you get it right. If you go for the wrong kind of necklace, it could stand out like a sore thumb and could really detract from the amazing garments that you may be wearing. So, as you can see, it’s important that you know exactly how to wear a statement necklace. Here are some valuable tips that any girl should know.

Keep Other Jewelry Understated

When you do put on a statement necklace, it needs to be the centre of attention. For this reason, it’s best to keep any other jewelry that you wear as understated as possible. You might want to click here to see some great examples of chic yet understated pieces. In fact, some people prefer to wear no other items of jewelry when they have a statement necklace on as they want to make sure that it attracts all the attention.

Pair With A Great Lippy

For some extra drama, why not pair your statement necklace with a fantastic lipstick? This will then make sure that all eyes are on you no matter where you may be! If you are going to wear a silver or sheer necklace, then think about wearing a bright red lip, as these colours will compliment one another. For a black or dark necklace, you will be safe with any shade of lippy, but for some extra dramatics, why not go for a dark purple lip? Of course, your lippy choice will also depend largely on your outfit of choice as well.

Don’t Shy Away From Patterns

Some people think that you shouldn’t wear a patterned top underneath a statement necklace, as it could make the whole outfit a bit too busy. Thankfully, though, that isn’t always the case. In fact, bold patterns can work really well with bold necklaces. Just make sure that the necklace is able to stand apart from the pattern or else it might go unnoticed.

Use It To Glam Up T-Shirts

One of the best things about statement necklaces is that they can really help to add some glam to a casual outfit. This is especially the case when it comes to a graphic t-shirt. Grab one of these tees and pop on your biggest and boldest necklace, and you might be surprised by just how glam you look!

Consider The Garment’s Neckline

When choosing which statement necklace to wear, it’s important that you consider the neckline of the garment that you will have on. Match the wrong necklace to the neckline, and your overall outfit could end up looking slightly odd.

There are lots of ways to wear a statement necklace. Don’t own one yet? Looks like it’s time to go shopping for one!